Why men have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be filled with evils, cause misery, and other troubles. Also you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, money, age dissimilarity, faith upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married man date.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are women seeking an affair. I think generally though it is just the human condition, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the desire on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos society has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their worries and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your relatives or anyone else? You would need to reduce the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major cluster, colossal in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they feel happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your savings are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sadly this is a ordinary groung I fear. One or the other, usually the husband is sexually neglecting his lady for a number of reasons. As a man I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe caring is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have simply grown apart, our common concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.